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Two years ago I began to seek a new partner in my life after my divorce had settled.

In the West many men are very wary of re-marriage because we feel unappreciated by western women. There are countless stories of men who worked hard all their lives to provide for their wives and families, and then found themselves being asked to leave by those same wives. Statistically 82% of separations and divorces in the West are intitiated by females. This has left men disillusioned with the Western woman.

Because I am a heavy Internet user I soon noticed that Russian women seemed to be very popular with men like me. Their many virtues were set before us and for us it was a feast of good news.

Russian women, it is said, are utterly devoted to their men; they value family and home above all else, and they crave a loving relationship with a good man. They are skilled in the traditional domestic arts, and at the same time they are highly cultured and educated. In short, a Russian woman is every man's dream of the good wife as espoused in Proverbs 31 of the Bible.

So I began to scour the Internet for a Russian bride. My experience has been very positive thus far, but I have made mistakes.

My first mistake was to rush into things and commit to the first woman I contacted. For 6 months we maintained a telephone relationship but during that time I began to feel that she was not quite what I wanted. Rather painfully for her I terminated the relationship after 6 months. However, the valuable lesson I learned was that a Russian woman has a soul and a personality just like all of us, and different personalities suit different people. So it is important to back off from the ideal and take them for what they are.

At that point I decided that if I was going to have a healthy relationship with a Russian woman I needed to learn the Russian language. So I have been studying the language constantly for two years now. To any man in search of a Russian bride I would say: Most certainy you should learn the Russian language. For a start it will open up a vast field of opportunity for you. You will be miles ahead of other men in your quest, because most Russian women cannot speak English. If you can speak their language, they will choose you over another man without language skills.

I am registered on the database of 500 marriage agencies throughout Russia and I am literally deluged with invitations from beautiful women all over the old USSR, on the strength of the fact that I have said that I can speak and read Russian.

I get about 20 contacts a week from women who want to become my wife. I am amazed at how many young and extremely beautiful women write to me.

This leads me to my next point. Trust your feelings and your desires. I am the first to admit that I desire a beautiful younger woman as my wife. I know that I will be dissatisfied if I do not marry such a woman. Beauty means alot to me. It makes me feel good. So I am holding out for a beautiful woman because that is what I want first. I happen to desire a nice figure as well, so that is part of my search list too. So I limit my search to those women who are beautiful and shapely. Of course in Russia and bordering states such women are not hard to find. Russian women are astonishingly beautiful, and most are in good shape.

I visited Saint Petersburg last year and I was astonished by the loveliness I saw all around me. There are very few fat women in Russia, at least until they reach the middle years of their lives. In the West women generally are overweight, but in Russia they are slim and gorgeous. This is the rule rather than the exception, take my word for it.

Last year I had a long lasting relationship with a Russian woman. Again, we maintained constant telephone contact and eventually I visited her.

I think that this visit is most important in your planning. I would try to visit my chosen woman within 6 months if I were you.

I have the highest regard for this woman and for a long time I thought I would marry her, but that is when she made her big mistake. Once she thought she had me, she tried to possess me to a degree that I was uncomfortable with. This did not become evident until our holiday together when this possessiveness started to reveal itself. So again I trusted my instincts and decided to terminate the relationship. I want a partner, not a sovereign.

Now, as I search for a new partner I trust my instincts to guide me all the way. The very first thing I expect of a Russian woman is that she must make a real effort to maintain a relationship as I wish to do as well. If she says, please don't ring until next weekend, I take it that she is not sufficiently available to be my soulmate. If she promises to write to me and takes a terribly long time to do so again I lose interest.

At the same time I try to be sensitive to the fact that communication over there is slower than here, and I know that most Russian women do not have computers. So we have to be reasonable. But if she promises to do something and doesn't do it, I lose interest straight away. I seek that constancy of effort in a relationship.

There is a myth that Russian women just want your money and a passport to the West. The myth is true to the extent that Russian women do seem to think of the west as a kind of paradise and undoubtedly dream of living there, but that is not what drives their search for a partner.

With few exceptions Russian women desperately want to find love and to give love. If western women don't want us, Russian women will gladly have us. They aspire to a loving family and a good husband more than anything else. A happy marriage is their pearl of greatest price.

For men it is very much a buyer's market. Men, you have the strong hand in this suit, but I urge you not to exploit it. You should not take Russian women for granted, They expect alot of you. They expect you to be kind and chivalrous, warm and loving. They expect you to make an effort too, and so you should. You should be sensitive to their special days and send them flowers as the occasion arises.

International women's day is one such day. It is a much more important day than Valentine's day.

My search continues because after three terminated relationships I have become much more aware of what I want.

I want beauty and I want constancy.

I am quite confident of finding what I want because the Russian federation is full of beautiful and dependable women, but I am seeking the one who is JUST RIGHT for me.

David Bell
Melbourne
Australia